Confidence is powerful, but can it ever be “too much”? When a woman knows her worth, embraces her independence, and isn’t afraid to be herself, is that ever intimidating or overwhelming? Do you think there’s a point where confidence crosses into being “too much”? Or is it something to be celebrated, no matter how strong it is? Let’s talk about it…
Robert Salinger: “I truly prefer strong, independent women but not for the same reason so many have posted here. I feel that if a woman who is strong and independent says they love me, they truly do. A not so strong woman may only love me because of my strength. They may stay with me because they are afraid to live without me, not because they really love me. My wife, a strong and independent woman, doesn’t need me for any reason other than real emotional love. Women that are needy, less independent may only love you for what you can do for them, not for just being you.”
Verrik Mesnir: “Yes, I really like independent strong women a lot. I Like someone who does not really care about how a group or how society views her but rather thinks about themselves and dreams of a future they control and hope for. I still love and adore strong women but when it comes to my own preferences, to be specific I want a woman who is not a warrior but a true Demon at everything she does. I love strong women because they are different. Women are expected to be such-and-such by many, however strong women have broken their chains and have become full individuals outside of their gender. Like I’ve said, strong women are just so cool and attractive that I am awestruck.”
Dainik Goswami: “I personally do. I like women who are strong, independent and free-spirited. I don’t know about others, but I really love it when women are like this. They too are humans after all, aren’t they? Acknowledging them won’t harm us men in any way, would it?I do seek these qualities in a girl, because for boys like me, a girl is supposed to be the source of not only love but also positivity and inspiration. I don’t want to be standing ahead while my girl is lagging behind. I want her to stand together with me. A lot of people I know are telling me to marry a girl who prefers to be a housewife only. But I would personally feel very satisfied if my girl has dreams of her own and if I could help her fulfill those. And for that, she does need to be strong and independent. And also because if a man like me ever breaks down at some point in time, only a strong woman can comfort him. And while I can attribute my open-mindedness to being a 21st century man, the truth is I have always found strong women attractive ever since I was younger. I can’t really put it into words why that is so, but that’s where the beauty lies. Even in movies, I admire strong female characters. There’s this charm about them I fully understand but can’t describe easily. As an independent and (maybe) strong man myself, there’s no way I want any girl to be lacking those qualities, especially in today’s advanced and fast-moving world.
Stacy D-T: “The older I get, the more I believe they don’t at least long term. I own a home, and make a very decent living in So. Cal where it’s very expensive, and have reached my professional goals. Men “seem” to value and find my independence attractive when we first meet and the relationship begins, but at the end, the same things they loved in the beginning are the things they hate at the end of a relationship. Breakups/divorces are hard so it’s natural to use any easy excuse to explain why the relationship is over, but more times than I like to recall I’ve heard men say they felt marginalized or commented that they didn’t feel, “needed enough.” Bottom line, you are who you are and there’s not much to be done about it if you are committed to living your life being who you were born to be.”
Galliant Won: “By far the most attractive. My wife was a fully realized adult not an underdeveloped child looking for mom/daddy. If she needed anything, the request was direct. (Heaven for men). If she was confused or troubled by my behavior, she would tell me clearly and specifically why. (Also HEAVEN for Men) Resolving misunderstandings took MINUTES. Zero fighting. Zero wasting each other’s life force and precious time.
If anything had happened to me she likely would have had a cry then, rolled her sleeves up, and taken care of business. Sadly she lost an incredibly brave battle with pancreatic cancer on Christmas Day 2004. Her grace and amazing sense of humor as her body fell apart and she lost her stunning physical beauty made me fall even deeper in love with her. I was with her until her last breath. I did not want to miss one second with her.
I have not met another human being I respect more. Do not feel sorry for me. I went to the top of love mountain and I was lucky and truly blessed to know this awesome full adult human being for even one day.So yes, some men very much prefer strong independent women.”
Mukti Masih: “Yes and No. Allow me to explain this. Speaking from personal experience, I can tell you that men do find women who are independent and strong, extremely attractive. At the same time, the same men could also feel slightly intimidated by such a woman’s presence. So while men would find the Alpha kinda female attractive, he would really open up to a woman who is not scared of exposing her vulnerable side. He would find the contrast quite interesting. Similarly, women feel safer around men who are not shy of their emotional needs since this trait shows honesty.”
Chris Tor: “Some men don’t like confident women. Sometimes it’s out of a feeling that men should be the deciders and women should be demure and secondary. Sometimes it’s because they themselves lack confidence and are intimidated by confident women.
Personally, I find confidence in women to be very attractive. I do think that people sometimes mistake things that are not confidence for signs of confidence, though. Bragging is not confidence. Acting dismissively toward others is not confidence. Behaving in a way that is designed to make you look better than others is not confidence. In fact, those are all signs of a lack of confidence.Real confidence is when someone isn’t afraid to speak up when she has something to say, but she also knows when to let others speak. It’s not being afraid to stand firm for a worthy cause, but also knowing when to admit that one has made a mistake. It is seeking self-improvement over self-promotion. Confidence can often be expressed as humility, as letting others shine when you know you could shine equally as bright. It’s an inner strength that peeks out, not something that is always on display. It’s an extremely attractive quality.”
