This post was a comment I read on someone else’s feed. I found it very interesting as many people that commented on this post felt like they were the only ones in these shoes. The post said one of the most difficult things to accept is how a child turned out versus what you hoped they would become. One mother stated “It’s so hard! My son was raised well, but he acts like he was raised by a crackhead. He was loved and supported and now he barely speaks to me.” Can you relate to this mother? How did you handle it? Why does this happen more often these days than before? Let’s talk about it…
Kenneth Mumma: “Never leave out the most important parenting equipment- The belt.”
Rebecca Soto: “I have four sons. I tried to raise them with good morals. But yes there were some tough moments. I have 2 sons who took a path I did not approve of and 2 sons who did just fine. I eventually let them go and live their lives the way they wanted. Were those lives the best, no and would I have chosen different paths for them? yes. At the end of it all I let them live and make mistakes. Was always there for them if need be. Love them through everything but let them know your mistakes and your problems are your own. Own up to them and take responsibility for your actions. Even though it took a few tough years for them to change their lives and become strong responsible men.”
Rob Gonzales: “Maybe the kid saw the same life way differently than the mom. Being raised well is conceptual, maybe she thought she was providing, while he saw other things that he didn’t like when being raised well.”
Jeff Hull: “Some of us deal with it in reverse. A mother that has never been a good mother at all.”
Jazmin D Zuñiga: “I didn’t raise my oldest son and he was raised with a lot of resentment and hate, even though I have tried to be there for him all these years he is very disrespectful to me so I cut ties and I am at peace! I pray for him every morning and I send him light so he can find his path. I have been practicing detachment with both things and people and so far it has worked for me as I am at peace because I love him and as a mother that doesn’t change, but I love myself enough to get away from that toxic relationship “
Rick Carter: “I would tell him he should be thankful to have a mom who loves and cares for him.”
Trish Gonzales: “Read your post. My son is 34 years old. I brought him up. Drove him to school everyday. Not like lazy parents, interaction is important. As he grew older of course at school, friends started being rebellious. He was brought with love and discipline. The only way I think your bond will grow or repair itself , is taking the time and be rough, sit down, don’t get up. Talk. Just talk. Be interested in what he likes. Communication is the best alternative. If he doesn’t live with you, take the time to talk or walk away. He needs hard discipline. If he did that to me, I’d wait until he left. Take everything out of his room. Remember, you are the one who buys food, clothes, shows, anything he needs. If you take that away, only then will he notice that he is lucky to have you!”
Yvette Elizabeth: “When my son was born, I had all these ideas he would grow up to be a doctor, lawyer, we would get along always. As time goes by, you start to realize that he’s his own person. I had to take a step back, allow him to make his mistakes, learn from his decisions, good or bad, and be present in his life. I always kept the lines of communication open sometimes you want to hear and sometimes I would sit there and think in my head “WTH” but I never made him feel weird or dumb etc. As a parent, all you can do is guide and love them. That’s what my parents still do with me. I can’t imagine not having my son part of my life. I’m not a perfect mom. I try every day. He’s now 2. He still wants to hangout with me.”
Kelly Narvaez: “Our job as a parent is to teach our children to be self-sufficient, caring and to make the right choices and if bad choices are made, learn from them and grow. I never sheltered my kids from the reality of life. I taught them to work; If they want nice things, they have to work for them. They had chores and appreciated what they had. I taught them to respect their elders so it was always manners; yes ma’am and yes sir. Taught them to be selfless so we would feed the homeless, donate clothes and toys that they no longer played with. Most importantly, I taught them how to stand on their own two feet because one day mom and dad won’t be around to help them anymore. They were very respectful children and now caring and responsible adults. Two oldest live on their own (33 and 22) , pay their bills and have careers. And still come over almost every day to see us so I must have done something correct.”
Richard Cortez: “I believe it’s not always the parents’ fault. I believe it’s how they are taught that everyone gets first place in everything instead of trying harder. Maybe next time. Every child has a cellphone they see too much and are learning the wrong way. Cell phones seem great but I believe they are Evil! lol”
Monique Burks: “I love that this part of parenting wasn’t so hard for me. I think my children are magnificent, exactly as they are and choose to be.”
Tracy Kyu: “True, we also didn’t turn out the way our parents wanted us to.”
Nigel A. Mclean: “Very true, as parents we need to make room for that, but it’s easier said than done.”
Tiawana Brown: “It’s the right thing to do but hard. Remember! They may not be like us
and that’s okay!”
from the west side to south side and then all over the place to link up with my friends. As a young person, I always introduce my family to new age, un traditional heraltheir dishes. Like this year I am bringing vineagar mocktails and a citrus salad.”
